Saturday, June 30, 2012

Transfer Week June 2012

This is our missionaries going home this month...From the left,
Elder Dioso, Sister Billings, Sister Mathangi, President, Me, Sister
Escalona, Sister Guzman, Sister Tumaliuan and Elder Castor.
Our missionaries going home are gathered for a Family Home 
Evening/Testimony meeting.  In the front is Sister Mathangi, 
Sister Billings, Elder Dioso (leaning forward with a smile), Elder
Castillo & Elder Packer.  In the back, Elder Navarro and Elder
Cortez getting ready to show a "going home" video.  The three
sisters on the couch behind them on the left is Sisters Tumaliuan,
Guzman & Escalona, then Elder Diaz, Me and President.
The new batch of missionaries just arriving from the Manila MTC
by bus.  The APs are helping them come across the street to the
Mission home.
Here we are having breakfast with the new missionaries.Elders
Cook, Navarro and Diaz are at the table on the left.  All the
new missionaries are with Elder Cortez at the other table.  
Starting with the sisters, going around that table is Sister Begontes,
 Sister Calla, Elder Ocuaman, Elder Bandoy, Elder Cortez, Elder
Dela Rosa, Elder Caling and Elder Abad.
Just finishing a wonderful big lunch after a long morning of 
orientation for our new batch of missionaries! Starting at the left,
Rubi, Elder Bandoy, Elder Cortez, Elder Navarro, Elder 
Dela Rosa, Elder Caling, Elder Abad and Me.

Here we are with our new missionaries...President, Elder Caling, 
Sister Calla, Elder Ocuaman, Elder Bandoy, Sister Begontes, 
Elder Dela Rosa, Me and Elder Abad.

My talk for Transfer Day...
Relationships & Principles for Effective Companionships


    Relationships, more than anything else, contribute to the quality of our lives. Our relationships with Heavenly Father, with His son Jesus Christ and with the Holy Ghost are our most important relationships. These require daily exercise of faith and prayer. That is what will give us the confidence to know that God loves us or is interested in us.
     Our relationships with companions require similar effort. We must cultivate these by communicating and serving. (Making this effort will contribute greatly to having and maintaining good mental health.)
     You have the wonderful blessing of being taught through experience here on your mission to do what it takes to build good and strong relationships with your companions. This can help you in your eternal companionships. If you can learn to use faith and prayer along with communication and serving you will be given the strength and means to do what it takes to achieve the wonderful lasting relationships with those that matter most. Learn it here, Elders and Sisters.
     May I make a suggestion…?
Three Principles For Effective Companionship
1. COMPANIONS ARE MORE LIKELY TO LIKE YOU IF THEY FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES WHEN THEY ARE AROUND YOU.
· Express genuine respect, caring and consideration toward your companion.
· Compliment frequently; express appreciation regularly.
· Be quick to apologize.
· Recognize that effective communication begins with an attitude of genuine concern and desire to understand your companion.
· Regularly employ the power of empathy in your active listening to your companion.
· Ensure your companion knows you understand his/her comments before responding yourself.
· Accept that being an effective missionary means being the best companion you know how to be regardless of your companion’s attitude or behavior.

2. REACTING BADLY TO YOUR COMPANION’S ANNOYING BEHAVIOR DEFINES MOST COMPANIONSHIP PROBLEMS.
· Avoid harsh responses, withdrawal, or the silent treatment.
· Assume your companion is doing the best he/she can from his/her point of view.
· Be willing to regularly discuss the strengths as well as challenges in your relationship, including suggestions on how you can improve.
· Avoid being critical toward your companion.
· Criticism is the least effective and laziest of all techniques designed to effect change in others. It is also the most likely to backfire.
· Instead, employ requests for specific changes in behavior (rather than personality or attitude) and always include compliments for actions they are currently performing well.
· Say “Yes” whenever possible to your companion’s requests. If responding with a “No” to the other’s request, always include a legitimate alternative suggestion to which he/she is free to respond.
· If receiving criticism from your companion:
· Allow your companion to express his/her concerns completely. Ask sincere, clarifying questions. Paraphrase his/her concerns to show understanding.
· Find something to agree with in his/her stated concerns.
· Genuinely apologize for any wrongdoing while ignoring any exaggerations in his/her statement.
· Assert your own position regarding the issue non-defensively.
· Set the stage for negotiating.

3. YOUR HAPPINESS IN A COMPANIONSHIP IS PRIMARILY YOUR OWN RESPONSIBILITY
· Improve the quality of your own missionary life.
· Avoid anchoring your happiness in your companionship on fundamental changes in your companion’s attitude or way of doing things.
· Recognize that any change in a companionship must be precipitated by a change on your part first.
· Make yourself happy from other aspects of your missionary life.
· Maintain a ready and consistent sense of humor. Avoid taking yourself and your companion’s natural weaknesses too seriously.











Friday, June 29, 2012

Zone Conference June 2012

Cabuyao Zone...Front row, Sister Padua, Sister Morton, Sister
Baladad, Sister Carmichael, Me, President, Sister Wagner & 
Elder Wagner. Back row...Elder Natividad, Elder Navarro (AP), 
Elder Rosario, Elder Revillo, Elder Nance, Elder Lalo, 
Elder Castillo, Elder Diaz (AP), Elder Solliano, Elder Sasagi,
Elder Cortez (AP), Elder Waga, Elder Pablico, 
Elder Delos Santos and Elder Orro.
San Pablo Zone...Front row, Sisters Cayanan, Donato, Pitman,
Guzman, Sagaysay, Me, President, Elder Packer, Sister Packer,
Sisters Montague & Walker.  Back row, Elders Eyre, Navarro,
Diaz, Cook, Yelle, Diosa, Shepherd, Cortez, Miranda, Bandiola,
Smith, Trapsi & Edvalson.
Santa Cruz Zone...Front row, Elder Torres, Elder Rivera, Elder
Abendanio, Sister Maka, Sister Pajarin, Me, President, Sister
Packer, Elder Packer, Elder Sembrano, and Elder Visoria.  Back
row, Elders Sasagi, Nerza, Revillo, Torculas, Bayla, Navarro, 
Diaz, Cortez, Adams, Cello, Mac Millen, Pratt, Maiz, Waga 
and Edvalson. (Elders Sasagi, Revillo, Waga and Edvalson 
are not in this zone!)
Siniloan Zone...Front row, Elder Surio, Sister Buduan, 
Sister Pruden, Me President, Sister Packer, Elder Packer,
Sister Yoro and Sister Lamosa. Back row, Elder Lalangan,
Elders Hansen, Eldridge, Navarro, Diaz, Cortez, Pacuman &
Illustrisimo.
Lucena Zone...Front row, Elders Silvosa, Alinsoot & Navarro.
Middle row, Sister Francis, Sister Mathangi, President, Me, 
Sister Douglas, Elder Douglas & Sister Gabonada. Back row, 
Elders Viloria, Bactad, Galutera, De Guia, Michaels, Viloria, 
Glenn, Calisaan, Cortez, Johnson, Navarro, Manson, Diaz,
Howes & Sister Huni
Lopez Zone...Front row, Elders Perez, Garnica, Shepherdson, 
and Collado.  Middle row, Sister Nabus, Sister Villiasis, Presdent,
Me, Sister Douglas, Elder Douglas and Elder Pascua.  Back row,
Elders Leavitt, Caubulejo, Yost, Kleinlein, Cortez, Nalesoni, Diaz,
De Young, Navarro and Najorda.
Marinduque Zone...Front row, Sister Ramos, Sister Escalona,
President, Me, Sister Douglas, Elder Douglas, and Elder Estayo.
Back row, Elders Sanchez, Burton, Cortez, Mendoza, Naeata,
 Rustia, Diaz, Knight, Navarro and Meniano.
Batangas Zone...Front row, Sister Roque, Sister Pacampara,
Elder Clark, President, Me, Sister Wagner and Elder Wagner.
Back row, Elders Diaz, Biala, Navarro, Basco, Ebuen, Perez,
Libutti, Pesamino, De Leon, Cortez, Tupou, Kartchner, 
Palavi, and Hurst.
Lipa Zone...Front row, Elder Enlayo, Elder Capacungan, Sister
Agustin, Sister Macariola, President, Me, Sister Wagner and 
Elder Wagner.  Back row, Elders Dela Cruz, Alvaro, Tolintino,
Butler, Guyer, and Diaz, Sister Tumaliuan, Elder Navarro, Sister
Morino, Elder Thompson, Sister Folau, Sister Billings, Elders
 Cortez, Jones, Salisbury, Mayola and Dait.
Mindoro Zone...Front row, Elder Ignacio, Elder Tagulao, Elder
Campbell, Sister Campbell, President, Me, Sister Snow, and 
Sister Grow. Back row, Elders Guba, Lacson, Brown, Diaz, 
Tamale, Ah Wong, Cortez, Navarro, Pascua, Lucila, 
Pascua and Ayap.
Sister Pruden and Sister Yoro with a happy pose!
Elder Packer is our financial secretary, so he's in charge of the 
reimbursements for the missionaries who had medical needs or
apartment needs and they had to use their own support. They
bring their receipts and he pays them back.  He looks like he is
having a lot of fun...but his job is not always fun! From the left,
Sister Escalona, Sister Ramos, Elder Meniano, Elder Knight,
Elder Packer down in front holding up the money, Elder Perez,
Elder Abendanio and Elder Collado.
Sister Francis, Elder Navarro and Elder De Guia.
Elders Viloria, Viloria, Collado, Manzon, Calisaan,
Seggay, Galutera, and Navarro.
Sister Huni, Me and Sister Gabonada.
Elders Leavitt, Tagulao and Kleinlein in the front.  Elders Navarro,
Bactad, Michaels and Shepherdson in the back.
Sister Douglas with Sister Mathangi.
   Elder Shepherdson     
 Sister Packer and Elder Silvosa
Elder Burton.  This face he pulled made him kind of look like
he had a black eye, but he didn't!

     The Conference was another spiritual lift for us all.  At each Zone Conference (there are three) a different missionary was assigned to give a talk on Repentance.  Sister Augutin spoke the first day.  She talked about different meanings of CTR (Choose the Right, Current Temple Recommend, etc.).  She concluded with Commit To Repent and that in order to truly repent, we must be Committed to Change, remember that it Takes Time to heal, and use the Redeeming power of the Savior to Repent.  
     Elder Yelle was the speaker on another day and he emphasized that Repentance is very personal and Jesus Christ is the way.  He quoted John 3:16-17 "...God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.  And Matthew 1:21"...Jesus (will) save His people from their sins."  We need a broken heart and a contrite spirit.  He also quoted Alma 13:13 "...humble yourselves before God, and bring forth fruit meet for repentance.  He quoted President Monson as saying, "Faith must replace doubt."  We need faith to repent.
     Elder Coubalejo was the third speaker.  "Let us repent...that we provoke not the Lord"...He quoted Nephi, “Nevertheless, notwithstanding the great goodness of God my heart exclaimeth: O wretched man that I am! Yea, my heart sorroweth because of my flesh; my soul grieveth because of mine iniquities.” (2 Nephi 4:15) and also in verses 18 & 19, "I am encompassed about, because of the temptations and the sins which do so easily beset me. And when I desire to rejoice, my heart groaneth because of my sins.”  He mentioned that we in like manner suffer the effects of sin and named three of them. 1. self shame 2. Confidence and faith degrade 3. We are not at peace.  We can follow Nephi's example and have a broken heart and a contrite spirit which is required to truly repent. One of the greatest lessons a missionary could bring with him as he goes home is the ability to repent. He ended his talk with the scripture in Alma 13:37 “And now, my brethren, seeing we know these things, and they are true, let us repent, and harden not our hearts, that we provoke not the Lord our God to pull down his wrath upon us ... but let us enter into the rest of God”  
All three were wonderful talks.

     My talk centered around the Scripture found in (Mark 10:21, 22) When the rich man said he had been righteous from his youth.  The Savior told him. “One thing thou lackest: go thy way and sell whatsoever thou hast, and give it to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven, and come, take up the cross, and follow me. And he was sad at that saying, and went away grieved: for he had great possessions.”  I asked the missionaries, "How much extra “stuff” have you brought on your mission? What of your possessions are you willing to give up in order to grasp the Iron Rod and become a true disciple of Jesus Christ? ”Whatsoever thou hast” is what the Lord requires." Some of the things I named were, a mild rebellious streak, an inclination to bend the rules, homesickness, ego or competitiveness, selfishness or a bit of laziness?  Some may even have fear...fear of completely trusting in the Lord and His promises.  I asked, "Are any of these things holding you back from being a true disciple?  
     In President Gordon B. Hinckley's words, “You are His chosen servant; you have been ordained to something holy and wonderful. You cannot live in the world and partake of the ways of the world. You must be above all of that.” 
      A wise Mission President once said, “If you are not doing what the Lord would have you do, you cannot believe in yourself. You cannot feel worthy to receive Gods help & guidance. You cannot have faith to pull down the blessings of heaven into your life…not because you don’t believe in God; rather because you cannot believe in yourself.” You need his help and guidance and the blessings of heaven in your life. As you let go of all the "stuff", "whatsoever thou hast", your faith will increase & you will learn to believe in yourself.
     I told the story of Joseph F. Smith and his going on a mission at the age of 15.  He was, in his words, "very much oppressed" on his mission.  He lacked confidence and could hardly look a man in the face.   During that time, he had a dream wherein he experience bathing and feeling "clean" and confident as he envisioned himself on the other side of the veil and met his family, including the prophet, Joseph Smith.  He awoke from that dream and felt he was a man "every whit".  He could face any person and any problem with confidence.  He said, "That vision, that manifestation and witness that I enjoyed at that time has made me what I am, if I am anything that is good, or clean, or upright before the Lord, if there is anything good in me. That has helped me out in every trial and through every difficulty”  He received the strength that comes from a clear conscience. I told the missionaries that they can be good, clean and upright before the Lord.  Your mission can give you the courage to face anyone or any situation.  Your mission can be your vision, manifestation or witness that will help you in every trial and through every difficulty.  
     The Prophet Isaiah said, “Wash you, make you clean; put away the evil of your doings from before mine eyes; cease to do evil;  “Learn to do well; … “Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow;” (Isaiah 1:16–18). 
     In modern revelation the Lord has said: “Be ye clean that bear the vessels of the Lord” (D&C 133:5). 
     Also, in D&C 4:2, we read “Therefore, O ye that embark in the service of God, see that ye serve him with all of your heart, might, mind and strength, that ye may stand blameless before God at the last day.”  President Peterson has said that many will serve with all of their might and strength and neglect giving their minds and their hearts.  Letting go of some of the “stuff” you are holding on to can help you do that. If you don’t give your mind and your heart while serving your mission, you will find that you will be ineffective and counter productive. You will forgo personal development that happens on a mission. You will forgo the light, knowledge, strength, intelligence and all the virtues that come as you serve with your mind and your heart. 
     The first three verses in 1 Corinthians 13 say it well… 
     “Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.” (That sounds like…ineffective or counter productive.) 
     “And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.” (Even with great capacities, gifts and talents…if all we are thinking about is just to get through our time here with our strengths and not with our hearts…we are nothing…we are not changed) 
     “And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned and have not charity, It profiteth me nothing.” (Even if you give all of your time, means, and your life…if your heart is not right, you will not profit by it. Good will be done, but the good that you do will do you no good unless your heart is right…unless you have charity) 
     It is not just about adapting your behavior to conform to the rules of the mission and to the commandments of God. If your heart is not right, you will not profit from it. The purpose and central blessing of life is to change...Change to become more like Jesus Christ. 
      The Lord can change your nature if you give yourself to Him and His work. “He cannot work on what he does not have, and He cannot have you, unless you give yourself to him.” 

  President  Peterson presented and talked about the Philippine San Pablo Mission Vision as follows...
Philippines San Pablo Mission
Our Vision
(Moses 1:39)
·       “Qualify for the work” (D&C 4; 59:1)
o   Be “Eye-Single”-White Handbook/Mission Rules
o   Know the doctrine:
Doctrine of Christ/Our Purpose, Chapter 3 of Preach My Gospel
·       Become a Great Teacher, “a teacher come from God” (John 3:2)
o   8 Fundamental Lessons
o   Daily personal and companionship study of Preach my Gospel and planning for those we teach
o   Open and use the scriptures in every lesson
o   Use inspired teaching method:
Ask inspired questions, listen, discern & teach by the Spirit.
·       Teach 25 or more lessons per week/Enduring to the end conversions/ helping them receive temple ordinances
·       12 Week Training Program
o   The first three months—Laying a firm foundation
·       Each missionary return home fully converted to keep their covenants and continue to apply the Atonement in their life

      He quoted Proverbs 29:18, "Where there is no vision, the people perish..."  He talked about qualifying for the work by knowing and living the doctrine.  If we did that, we wouldn't need any rules.  He also challenged them to have courage and not pass by the "Big" homes as they go to find people to teach.  The gospel is for all of God's children.  He quoted 3 Nephi 18:32 "...ye shall not cast him out...unto such shall ye continue to minister; for ye know not but what they will...repent, and come unto me with full purpose of heart, and I shall heal them; and ye shall be the means of bringing salvation unto them".  That is why we must talk to everyone!  Moses 1:39 read, "For behold, this is my work and my glory--to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man."  To be a true vision it must align itself to God's vision.  The Lord's purpose is to Save Families!  That is the purpose of the creation, of the Priesthood and of the Atonement.  That is the work that we are about.  We want to qualify for the work, become great teachers and become fully converted to keep our covenants and apply the Atonement in our lives as we help others do the same.








































The Office...June 2012

This picture was taken the Sunday before transfers!  From the left,
Elder Cortez (AP), Elder and Sister Packer, President and I, 
Elder Dioso (Office Elder), Elder Diaz (AP), 
and Elder Cook (Office Elder).  Elder Dioso is going home this
week so he will get replaced on Friday, Transfer Day!  
Elder Cortez is being replaced by Elder Navarro, who's taking the 
picture. Elder Cortez will be a Trainer!  We are going to miss 
them both!  At least Elder Cortez will still be in the Mission! 
 Elder Dioso has finished his mission!  It's so hard to see him go,
even though we are excited for him to go on to his next 
phase of life!  He's a wonderful young man!

Pictures While Traveling June, 2012

Elder Cook, one of our office elders is posing in front of the 
Manila Temple.
Our drive to Manila always has huge billboards.  I kind of liked
this one! :-)
I know this looks blurry, but this is a picture taken through our
front windshield into the backend of the jeepney and this
little girl was too cute!
This is another typical sight!  There is a lot of people squeezed into
this tricycle!  We are looking at the motorcycle side of the tricycle
with the driver, mom and dad with baby and maraming (many!) 
people in the side car! They can make really good use of space in
those vehicles!
Yet another way to make a living in the Philippines!
Here we are picking up Elder Navarro to come to the office and
serve as an Assistant to the President.  He has been a Zone 
Leader with Elder Visoria in Santa Cruz.  Elder Navarro is taking
 Elder Cortez' place so Elder Cortez can go back out into the field
 and be a trainer for a new missionary!  He will be a great trainer!  
He has been a wonderful asset to the mission and a great help
 to President!  Pictured is Elder Diaz (AP), Elder Abendanio,
Elder Rivera, Elder Visoria, Elder Navarro and Elder Cortez.
This is commonly known as the "Filipino squat".  They learn it
at a very young age.  This picture was taken outside the San Juan
 meetinghouse last Sunday!  Another picture I couldn't resist!
The carabao is the workhorse of the Philippines.
Pretty much everything is allowed on the roads...no real rules
or regulations about that!
The Philippine people are very resourceful!  Most of them do not
own cars, so they figure out how to get things done without them!
Three young girls walking home from school.  They always stop 
for a drink or some other snack from a "tindahan" store along the 
way!  I like all the different uniforms the schools have here.















Monday, June 4, 2012

Another Mindoro Visit May, 2012

This was a cute little lady we met when we visited the Victoria 
Branch on Mindoro.  She in an investigator who loves reading the
Book of Mormon!  She was delightful!  Sister Campbell is 
pictured here with us.  We had a good time visiting with her!
Here we are with another couple in that Victoria Branch.
Sister and Elder Campbell are on the other end! President was
busy doing some interviews!




Sunday, June 3, 2012

Pictures Along the Way & Weddings

This was a beautiful shot I took on our way to look for an home 
for the new couple coming in July.  I know...you thought it was 
beautiful Marinduque!  No...this is in our Siniloan Zone!
"Plores ta Mayo"...Flowers of May Fiesta/Parade.  They have 
many parades and fiestas celebrating May flowers! Each 
Barangay (Neighborhood) has a little king & queen contest.  It is 
mostly little children who are dressed up to compete.  They all
dress up in formal wear and have a big parade.  We saw many 
of them, but this is the only picture I got.  
It sure is a pretty cute one though!
Couldn't resist this picture!  This whole family is on their family 
vehicle, a motorcycle!  They were just swerving in and around 
traffic with ease!  Yes...that baby is just "chillin'" like it is no big 
deal.  She must be used to it!  I just wish they all could have a 
helmet, don't you?
Wedding we attending in Manila.
This is a couple that was married the in Manila Temple.  This was
a reception held in San Pablo.  Juliet has never been married 
before.  Her husband is a widow with seven children, so she
has an instant family.  She is thrilled!




The Rooster Hotel/Resort and the Mango Orchard!

We call this a rooster hotel/resort! Each of these little 
room/shades has a rooster attached to a rope of some kind on
 his foot.  He has his own perch connected at the top of his shade
 with his food & water inside! You can see that each shade has 
a number that I am sure corresponds with the rooster!
You can see from this view, this place has maraming (many)
roosters living here!  Cock fighting is a big thing in the Philippines! 
This is a mango orchard.  If you can see this properly, you will
notice that each mango has been wrapped individually with 
handmade paper bags.  It looked like they were made from
newspaper!  Can you imagine?  Every mango on every tree in the 
whole orchard was wrapped like that!  We were told that they 
do that for the mangoes that are imported so they will be without 
blemish and get a better price.




Mission President's Seminar at the Shangrila Hotel in Manila

Here are many of the Mission Presidents and their wives as we 
were preparing to be taught!
This is our Area Presidency's beautiful wives!  Sister Ardern, 
Sister Nielson and Sister Teh!  President Peterson is in the 
background talking with President Odgers of the 
Philippines Laoag Mission.
Here is our Area Presidency sitting with Elder Russell M. Nelson.
Elder Ardern, 2nd Counselor, Elder Nielson, 1st Counselor,
& Elder Teh, President. Elder Nelson is sitting with them on the 
far right.  We had some wonderful teaching from all of them!
Elder Russell M. Nelson was so gracious to offer to have a picture
taken with each of the couples.  He is so kind and personable!
President and Sister Donato of the Philippines Butuan Mission are
the parents of one of our sister missionaries!  Great couple!  They 
are on the left.  Elder Methalucha is on the right.